Koji and Nahoko’s Wedding

Koji and Nahoko’s Wedding

I had the honor and privilege of being invited to Koji and Nahoko’s Wedding.   Koji and I work together and a few of my other co-workers joined as well.   It is nice to get out of the office and spend time socially with some of my co-workers.   You can spend so much time with someone in the office but after just a few hours outside of the office you learn more about them than you did after months in the office.

Japanese weddings today area an interesting blend of eastern and western traditions.

Today’s configuration: Leica M6-J, Summilux 35mm f/1.4, Elmar 50mm f/2.8, and a Noctilux 50mm f/0.95 shot on Kodak Portra 160 and 400 film.

Koji and Nahoko's Wedding

Meet Junichi…

Koji and Nahoko's Wedding

There was a Christian church service.  I am not sure if they are Christian or not but it is pretty popular in Japan to have a western style Christian wedding even if you are not.  The place the wedding was held was an ‘all in one’ with a Chapel and a Dinning Room upstairs for the reception.  The production quality of the wedding was pretty amazing.

The place was beautiful, the service was flawlessly executed and the food was fantastic.

Koji and Nahoko's Wedding

Nahoko looked stunning walking into the church…  Just absolutely beautiful.  It reminded me a bit of my own wedding.

Koji and Nahoko's Wedding

Koji and Nahoko's Wedding

Happy wedding watchers…

Koji and Nahoko's Wedding

I thought the forehead kiss was very sweet…

Koji and Nahoko's Wedding

Koji and Nahoko's Wedding

Koji and Nahoko's Wedding

The bouquet toss is done right after the ceremony…

Koji and Nahoko's Wedding

Koji and Nahoko's Wedding

Koji’s proud father… mission accomplished!

Koji and Nahoko's Wedding

I thought this was a nice touch… they hand wrote notes for everyone and left it on their champaign glass.

Koji and Nahoko's Wedding

Meet Masakatsu…

Koji and Nahoko's Wedding

Meet Reiko…

Koji and Nahoko's Wedding

Meet Nagisa…

Koji and Nahoko's Wedding

Meet Yasushi…

Koji and Nahoko's Wedding

I’m glad they were all there.  I needed some support.  I was asked to give the opening speech…in Japanese!  I tend to agree to big challenges without thinking all the way through them sometimes as I know with focus and effort I can accomplish anything.  Public speaking is difficult but doing it in another language is a completely different league.   My lovely wife Mayumi helped me with drafting the speech and then I studied a ton the week prior to make sure I was prepared.  If a YouTube video surfaces…I’ll be sure to post a link to it.

Yesterday was a great day for me to practice my Japanese as just about everyone there didn’t speak English.  I assume.   Actually with most people I just started speaking in Japanese unless they approached me and spoke in English.

Here are the notes I wrote for myself for the speech.

こうじさん、なほこさん、そして ごりょうけの みなさま、ほんじつ は まことに おめでとうございます!

こうじさん、なほこさん、きょうの この たいせつな ひ は、いっしょう わすれないでしょう。

私は、じぶんの けっこんしき の ことを、いつも わすれません。

きょうは、私 が じぶんの けっこんしきで おそわった、たいせつな おはなしを したいと おもいます。

こうじさん、あなた が かいしゃで ながい いちにち を おえ て、うちに かえると、おくさまが あなたに、

ながーくて こまかい はなしを する かも しれません。

そして、あなたは、そのはなしに あまり きょうみ が ない かも しれません。

でも、けっこんしたら、もう せんたくしは ない の です。

そこで、とくべつな Skillが ひつよう になります。。。

それが、「アクティブ リスニング」です。 すごい べんりです!

おくさまの、ながーーーい はなしの なかで、こうじーさんは、べつの ことを かんがえる かもしれません。

でも、おくさまの はなしの あいだに は、「あいづち」を じょうず に うつこと  が ひつよう です。

たとえば、「へえ、そうなのー」「なるほどねー」そですかー Is that so?。。。などです。

Active Listening は、おくさまを しあわせにする、たいせつな skill なの です。

-pause-

それでは、これから、おふたりに えいごの れっすんを します。

みなさま も いしょ に がんばりましょう!

こうじさん、けっこん せいかつに たいせつな ことばです、ぜひ おぼえてください。

1ばん えいごで「じんせい」は、なんと いいますか?

2ばん えいごで「おくさま」は、なんと いいますか?

3ばん えいごで「しあわせ」は、なんと いいますか?

この みっつの ことばは、けっこんした あなたに、いちばん たいせつな ことばです。

「Happy Wife, Happy Life.」

こうじさん、あなたの おくさま が しあわせ だと、あなたの じんせい が しあわせになります。おぼえて いて ください。。。

こうじさん、Repeat after me ください。

「Happy wife, happy life.」

それでは すべての だんせいのかた いっしょに いいましょう。Repeat after me ください。

「Happy wife, happy life.」

こうじさん, なほこさん ほんじつは、ほんとう に おめでとうございました。

Giving a speech at a wedding is incredibly hard to do but doing it in a language that is not your native language is incredibly difficult.   I really thought I would going to throw up the few minutes before.  My heart was pounding.  I know soon I would have 150 people looking at my as I try to fumble my way through this speech.

Koji and Nahoko's Wedding

Koji being a good groom.  A small, well served, piece of cake…

Koji and Nahoko's Wedding

Nahoko has a huge piece of cake for Koji…

Koji and Nahoko's Wedding

Koji and Nahoko's Wedding

Koji is a very funny guy…

Koji and Nahoko's Wedding

There were lots of speeches!

Koji and Nahoko's Wedding

…and cameras.  I think I had 3 cameras with me.

Koji and Nahoko's Wedding

Koji and Nahoko's Wedding

Koji and Nahoko's Wedding

Koji and Nahoko's Wedding

I really like how this picture came out.  I love shooting film as it has such a great quality to the final product and I love giving people prints. I made a bunch of different sized prints of this shot for Koji and his lovely new wife… as well as prints of all of the images of the day.   See the side benefit of inviting me to your wedding…?

Koji and Nahoko's Wedding

Koji and Nahoko's Wedding

Koji and Nahoko's Wedding

The middle guy is very funny… There is a TV commercial in Japan with a very similar sound to the theme of my speech ‘Happy Wife, Happy Life’ and he was singing the song:

“Happy Home, Happy Life, TA-MA Home…”

Koji and Nahoko's Wedding

One of the guests was a professional singer and wrote Koji and Nahoko a song…

Koji and Nahoko's Wedding

Koji and Nahoko's Wedding

She has many people crying…

Koji and Nahoko's Wedding

Koji and Nahoko's Wedding

Time for the speech from the bride to her parents…

Koji and Nahoko's Wedding

Koji and Nahoko's Wedding

Koji and Nahoko's Wedding

Well done Koji-san!

Koji and Nahoko's Wedding

Thanks for stopping by today…

 

24 Comments

  1. Amazing pictures loved them all….what a beautiful wedding :)

  2. Heather – It was a beautiful wedding. I’m glad I was able to be a part of it.

  3. Thank you for your perfect Japanese speech and fantastic pics!!

  4. Dave, That was a beautiful set of photographs! The bride and groom looked very happy. Really enjoyed this post (the use of film is cool), nice job!

  5. Dave, the colors of these photoes were amazing, people’s mood was well captured. Great work!

  6. Good job, Dave! It’s an invaluable lesson – “Happy Wife, Happy Life”. By the way, it looks like you are the only 外人 at the wedding. This is a really beautiful wedding.

    My best wishes to the bride and congratulations to the groom. The wedding dress is stunning! And great choice to have Dave speak.

  7. Congratulations and nicely done but don’t lose your english skills…….his beautiful new bride. ;)

  8. You are very welcome Koji. Thanks for making me part of your wedding.

  9. Thanks Bryant. I am loving film the more I shoot with it. It just tells a different story in my eyes.

  10. Thanks Humphrey. I thought the colors were beautiful as well. That was the first thing I thought when I saw the prints. I shot some digital shots as well but the mood just isn’t the same. I’ll post them up tomorrow.

  11. WeC – It was just me alone…but a good chance to speak Japanese. “Happy Wife, Happy Life”.

  12. Wow, congratulations on the Japanese speech Dave!

    I’m impressed by how Portra worked indoors. Were you using 400 for most of the time, or pushed 160?

    BTW the “Happy Wife, Happy Life” quote is very fun yet significant. :)

  13. Cute speech, Dave, very well done :)

    Really nice how shooting with Portra film turned out – all the shots have a very warm and “festive” feel to them.

  14. Hi Dave, I like the cleanliness of your photos. I can see there were a lot of people but you was able to keep very clean each person and it was a great work!

    ciao!

  15. Lovely. The Japanese are perfectionists in everything…

  16. Thanks Sam. Portra is quickly becoming my favorite film.

  17. Thanks Matteo – I work hard to keep them clean…

  18. not exactly photo related but along with your photos i love the taste of modern Japanese culture that you give your readers. I wondered was your wife included in the festivities, I see tables of only men. And I noticed that the bride wore a wedding dress and then a cranberry colored dress, is this typical for Japanese weddings ? thanks

  19. Well done Dave!
    I s’pose film makes it more satisfying as well…

  20. Great photos! And brave to bring a film camera to an event where people probably expect quick results. It paid off.

  21. Joan – Just Mr Powell attended. It is common to not get a +1 invite to a wedding. The brides typically change half way through the wedding so that is pretty common as well.

  22. It does Nathan… I was very happy with the results.

    Patrik – The good and bad of film is your shots ‘are what they are’. If you screw up your mistakes are there for the entire world to see. I had a bit of anxiety after the wedding while waiting for my film.

  23. Nice Japanese speech and nice photos!

  24. this is very sweet! nice moments and great photos as well.. love it.

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